Adulting as a Millennial

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“Adulting (v): to carry out one or more of the duties and responsibilities expected of fully developed individuals (paying off that credit card debt, settling beef without blasting social media, etc). Exclusively used by those who adult less than 50% of the time.” -Urban Dictinary

…the part where it says “used by those who adult less that 50% of the time” is the part I identify with the most… Being a young adult has been such a weird transitionary period of my life and I finally feel like I have reached the fun part. In no way, shape, or form do I feel like you know what you’re doing and can call yourself a real adult at 18. I think back to the place I was in my life and the choices I made at 18 and its so laughable now. Once I got to college and turned 21 I really thought I was grown then and I did not have a clue. College doesn’t prepare you for the real world at all and its laughable that I really thought I was grown and had life all figured out at 21. Fast forward to my 26 year old self and I am just now piecing things together that I want out of life and weighing out what is actually important to me vs what is irrelevant. As a child, I always assumed the older a person was, the wiser that person must be because they have experienced so much more out of life. I have quickly learned that is not the case at all. I have met adults of various ages that are definitely ignorant and stuck in their ways in their old age. I think the way a person is raised definitely molds them and heavily influences how that person will turn out later on in life especially if they don’t have a lot of will power. I am amazed at how ignorant and judgemental “adults” I once thought had it all figured out actually are. Adulting as a millennial has been such a fun experience. I am such a big kid at heart but now I have found the balance of taking care of my responsibilities and still having fun. I joke all the time about being an old lady trapped in a young persons body because sleeping could be considered a hobby of mine. I am 26, not using the degree I worked so hard to obtain in 4 years and am happier than I have ever been. I’m engaged to my college sweetheart, we have 4 beautiful fur babies together, we are officially homeowners and landlords and have jobs with full benefits. We have our health, strength, an unbelievable support system and I feel so fortunate to have all of these things at such a young age. I don’t take my life and the opportunities I have been afforded for granted and I think so many things have been falling into place lately because of the hard work that I have put in over the years. Adulting with him throughout the years has been so funny and reflecting back on it now makes me realize we really did have the right idea from the beginning. Being self sufficient and self motivated is a trait I find so attractive in people and as an adult it is so important. I believe in balance when it comes to every aspect of my life. I love to celebrate for no reason at all because life is short but it is still the longest thing that we do so it’s important not to take the moments you are given for granted. This whole “Adulting” thing is not so bad when you own up to the choices you make and stop caring about what anybody else thinks. You only have 1 life to live and time is the most precious thing that we are given so definitely taking full advantage of that and figuring this adulting thing out 1 day at a time.


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